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7 Ways to Simplify the Holidays


Live in each season as it passes; breathe air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each. Let them be your only diet drink and botanical medicines.

– Henry David Thoreau


It’s that time of year! It is the busiest two months of the year where we cycle through some of the year’s biggest holidays. As I write this, we are just weeks away from the Holiday of Gratitude where we gather and feast and share all the things we are grateful for in our metaphorical harvest. We will eat too much, watch football, laugh with friends and family, and nap on the couch.


And next comes the Holiday of Gifts. Every retailer in America already has red and green elaborate Christmas displays and advertisers are selling us all on all the things we need to buy for our loved ones.


And in between The Holiday of Gratitude and The Holiday of Gifts is the darker holiday of Black Friday where consumerism is in full force, but I digress…

As you read this, I encourage you to feel what comes up for you about this time of year. Do you feel joyful and excited? Do you feel constricted and overwhelmed? Do you feel a combo of the two? The truth is, the holiday season that is upon isn’t always a time of joy and merriment. It can be a time of increasing stress, expectations that push beyond our boundaries, and to be quite honest, a time of emotional upheaval.


Here is the reality:


During the holiday season, we have an increase in the demands in our daily life. Now not only do we need to do all of the regular life things - work, cook, clean, be caretakers to others, be good citizens, and oh fit in self-care. This time of year we have all of that AND we also have the extra demands of the season. We say yes to things we probably don’t have the time and energy for. We spend more money buying gifts that probably don’t need to be bought because we put expectations on ourselves to be perfect and generous. And add in the nostalgia or lack of nostalgia of our childhood connections to this time of year, and whew, there is a lot going on in terms of how we feel, how we are spending our time and money, and the tremendous amount of pressure we are putting on ourselves.


Have you heard of the Danish word Hygge? It’s pronounced ‘hue-gah’. It’s a concept of simplicity and comfort. Some of the tenants of hygge include togetherness, relaxation, indulgence, and presence. Hygge means to deeply connect to the slower rhythms of nature.


Doesn’t it sound just wonderful?